Rays of hope

You are on a roller coaster ride my dear readers this year. So, I was faced with the first barrier of my new approach to things, and I was ready to give up. Turns out patience and just believing in yourself can shine some lights of hope and make you continue on your journey.

Lesson of the day*: sometimes people are not motivated and encouraged to do something because it is right and good for themselves or for their kids when someone else asked them to, whether directly or indirectly. Doing so would make them wrong and you right. They are always right you should keep in mind, and who the hell are you to prove them wrong, or tell them what they should or should not do. Proving them wrong is not the goal anyways, rather their health and well-being. So, instead, it helps to rephrase the problem and approach it differently. Make them feel they are doing you a favor. You are suffering and you are stressed, which you are anyways because of their behavior. They have the power to save you and make you feel better, only if they do something differently.** Often times, they are more than happy to do that. They feel empowered. They are helping you feel better by doing what you wished they do, for you. At the end, you do feel better too, and so do they. And everyone lives happily ever after, till the next post at least ;-)

* I know this lesson is not rocket science and many may know it in theory. However, experiencing both approaches in practice and seeing how differently they work turned on a huge light bulb in my head.

** However, if you always use this approach, one might be perceived as constantly being selfish and needy. So, if this becomes the perception of the other side and this approach stops working, you need to remind and reassure the other person that you are worried about their well-being and you care for them. The moral of a story is that there are different ways of seeing and approaching the same problem and getting the desired outcome. Utilize what works best in your situation.